Sibling Rivalry


Sibling rivalry is an issue that has plagued families throughout history.  Parents have been grieving over it as far back as Adam and Eve.  Most parents think the big question is “How can we get our kids to get along with each other and stop fighting?”  But if we deal with the problem on that level, we’ll never solve it.  Because relationships between siblings are not the root issue.


Early in our marriage, my husband and I received advice on this from a couple that were years ahead of us in both the parenting and Christian experience.  They explained that when siblings fight, the real problem is not among the children.  It is an issue between the children and their parents!


Think about it.  If we parents instruct our children to be kind to one another and the kids start fighting, they are acting in direct defiance to us.  It’s an obedience issue.   When children learn there are consequences for disobedience, the fighting will stop. 


This same principle holds true in the Church today.  Jesus said, “A new commandment I give unto you, that you love one another…” John 13:34.  That’s not at all complicated.  And it is a command.


Christians and churches which fight among each other are acting in defiance of God’s command.  Yet few think of it that way or recognize that there are consequences.  It’s time to understand the enormity of this sin.  And, how simply it can be solved.  First, we need a proper respect for, and healthy fear of, the Lord.  Then, we just need to repent, obey Father God, and let Him deal with our Christian “siblings.”